Follow the #1 Dating Rule and Never Be a Pushover Again by Dan McDonley

Damn, nothing is hotter than a woman with a sword. That outfit isn’t bad either, gotta love ladies armor fashion these days. As she approaches she smiles and is about to profess what you hope will be her undying love for you when you are interrupted by a strange sound coming from the sky. It sounds eerily familiar, like some kind of music. It is so distracting when all you want to do is get back to beginning a sordid love affair with the pointy eared scantily clad lady warrior standing in front of you. The music seems to descend and surround you with that creepy familiar song that reminds you of your ringtone back in a time and place you seem to be quickly returning to. Damn phone, just interrupted the best dream you’ve had, or were going to have, in the last six months.
You look up and see it’s a call from her, that girl you met the other night and went out with once on what seemed at the time a very promising date. You immediately rush to answer it only glancing at the clock staring back at you blinking some time near midnight.

“Are you coming out? We are at Bar None playing beer pong, you should join us!” She slightly slurs into the phone over the sounds of drunken revelry in the background.

“Sure, I’ll be right there! Talk to you soon.” You reply running your fingers through your stylish bed head hairdo briefly glancing in the direction you hope your pants are. Thoughts of getting lucky, booty calls and a cute girl spur you to get out of bed and ignore your eight am business meeting tomorrow morning.

Parking was more of a pain than you thought it would be. You find yourself finally having your ID examined by the door guy, and walking into $2 beer night being bumped and pushed in every direction as you walk through the bar. Scanning the sea of faces you don’t see hers anywhere. After completing the circuit and almost having beer spilled on you twice you go back outside to call her.

“Hey where are you? I just got here.” You yell into the phone with your finger firmly stuck in your other ear.

She answers, “Oh, we decided to call it a night. I have to get up early tomorrow for work.”

Speechless you manage to stutter out, “Uh ok, well let’s get together soon.”

You have just been flaked on, and the worst part is you allowed it to happen. She is at home in bed by now and you are standing on the sidewalk like an idiot wondering if she likes you or not.

I have been there, thats how I know that even while standing there, you were likely not even that mad at her. Honestly she isn’t worth being mad at; you should be mad at yourself for not applying one simple rule:

Treat a woman no better or worse than one of your buddies.

I certainly wouldn’t get up and come out to join one of my guy friends if I am already in bed; in fact I wouldn’t even answer the phone. Why would you do that for a woman?

I am not saying don’t treat women well. I would do a lot for a friend of mine if he needed me, but he damn well be laying in a ditch somewhere if he is calling me past midnight on a tuesday evening for something.

The least attractive thing to a woman a man can do is not stand up for himself. As scary as it sounds to turn away a woman’s request and what she will think of you, she will admire you and be more attracted to you if you grow a backbone and stand up to her.

Women have an almost unconscious desire to test men sometimes. It can be as small as repeatedly asking for small favors at a time you have something else going on, to changing the music to something you don’t like in your car. Will you say how you feel? Will you tell her you can’t that you are busy, or ask to turn the station back you were enjoying that song? How long and how far will you let it go before she has completely emasculated you? There is no need to be rude when you do it, just simply stand up for yourself.

Emasculated: Answering the phone no matter what or when. Confident: Answering when you are free and letting it go to voicemail when you are doing something or talking to someone.

Emasculated: Buying a drink for a girl you just met cause she asked you to. (worse if you buy her friends drink too) Confident: Telling her you might after she gets to know you better, and actually buying her that drink later.

Emasculated: Paying for an extravagant dinner in hopes she will like you. Confident: Paying for a meal because you invited her to dinner, but actually really being excited to try the restaurant yourself.

Emasculated: Agreeing to go out with her on a night you had previous plans because you will break them for her. Confident: Choosing a night and time when you are free even if it has been a bit of trouble scheduling it for both of you.

Apply the rule to all of the above.

-If I am busy, I don’t stop what I am doing to take calls from my buddies, I call them back.

-I buy drinks for my friends because I know they will get the next round.

-I will often buy meals or coffee for a friend if I invited them out, not because I want them to like me but because they would do the same for me.

-I don’t pick restaurants I can’t afford to eat at to dine with friends.

Ask yourself, if your buddy treated you the same way how would you act? Don’t supplicate to women anymore, be a gentleman but have a backbone as well.

About the Author
Dan McDonley is proud to be a GEEK who has Decoded Dating. He has figured out how to successfully flirt and date while still being a GEEK and he has taught hundreds of guys to do the same. ———————————————– Find out 7 Mistakes YOU are making with WOMEN by going to => http://www.TheCharmingGeek.com

Breakup Advice and Relationship Tips for Guys by Sandra Varnes

Breakup Advice and Relationship Tips for Guys - 9 Tips for how to breakup with her and Remain a Gentleman.

Are you planning to breakup with your girlfriend? How do you end the relationship and still look like a gentleman? Here is some breakup advice for guys.

Tip 1- Prepare her ahead of time for the breakup. Drop hints that you aren’t satisfied with your relationship. Have “relationship talks” or just ask leading questions from time to time. Stop spending as much time with her. And, tone down the spending. If you buy her an expensive piece of jewelry and then breakup with her, she won’t know what to think.

Tip 2 - Make sure she’s the first to know you’re going to breakup with her. If she finds out from your friends (or worse, hers) that you’re relationship is moving on, she’ll hate you forever. Be honest with her and tell her that you love her but you are no longer in love with her.

Tip 3 - Find a neutral place to breakup with her. She shouldn’t have to live with the breakup every day at her house. And, when you breakup at your place, you are shifting the power dynamic in your favor. So, when at all possible, breakup with her in some place neutral.

Tip 4 - My next piece of breakup advice is to be a man and end it in person. Remember, Brittney Spears once called a relationship off by text message. Don’t be a Brittney! You owe it to her to tell her that the relationship is over. You have to be there for her one last time.

Tip 5 - Don’t complicate things. Tell her directly that the relationship is over. You should be prepared to tell her why because she will ask. But, don’t feel you have to relive the entire relationship through the break up process.

Tip 6 - Let her into your world. If you can make her see your perspective on the relationship, she is likely to be able to cope with the break up afterwards better.

Tip 7 - My next piece of breakup advice is if you want to breakup with her, do it. It is likely that she will ask you to reconsider. She may do this at the time you breakup or she may do it through texts, calls, and in person meetings afterwards trying to save the relationship. (Or, she may do both.) Remember that things aren’t going to change if you get back together. There’s a reason you want to breakup with her. So, stick with it.

Tip 8 - Time it right. Okay, there’s never going to be a perfect time to breakup with her. But there are times that are worse than others. If you breakup with her before a major holiday (Christmas, Valentine’s, Birthday, Anniversary), you are going to look like you just didn’t want to buy a gift. Also, be sensitive to other stressors in her life. Don’t dump her the week before final exams or right after her granddad has gone into the hospital for triple bypass surgery. Suck it up and stay with her for another couple of weeks.

Tip 9 - She’s going to cry. Girls are tear machines. So, have some tissues ready when you end the relationship. Be prepared for her to cry and don’t get too emotional about it yourself.

About the Author
Remember, it is going to be tough on her when you breakup with her. That is why you should follow the breakup advice in this article.

Relationships are not easy most can be saved. But if you have decided it’s over and you want to breakup with her do it with class. She deserves that much.

How to Have a Good Relationship - The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Relationships by Carole Merritt

Do you know how to have a good relationship? Many people repeat the same problems over and over in their relationships and wonder why they never succeed. This article will look at some of the habits of highly successful relationships.

Habit 1 - Communicate. Communication is the foundation of every good relationship. Don’t assume that… he’s happy, she’s fulfilled, you want kids, etc. At heart, don’t assume anything. Talk about it! When you first start seeing one another, it may be all about physical attraction, but long term relationships are based on love and communication.

Habit 2 - Listen. Many people think that communication is telling the other person what they think. But, the truth of the matter, listening is every bit as important as talking. Listen to what your partner is telling you in words. But also “listen” to his or her tone and body language.

Habit 3 - Shared goals. Where do you want to be in a year? In 5 years? At the end of your life? Having shared goals is key to how to have a good relationship. If you want kids soon and your partner doesn’t, you may be in for some strife. If you are on career track and your partner wants you to be home at 5:00 for dinner, there will probably be fights in your home.

Habit 4 - Common activities. You should do some things together. Do you both like hiking, bowling, or singing? Get involved in activities that allow you to spend time doing things together. This will cement your bond. You can even “do things” from the sidelines. If one partner enjoys softball and the other is not athletic, he or she can sit in the bleachers and cheer the team on.

Habit 5 - Allow space. How to have a good relationship requires that you give your partner space to pursue his or her interests too. Face it, most guys couldn’t care less about scrapbooking but many women love it. Similarly, most women don’t understand the joys of a day’s fishing. While these may be stereotypes, you can probably identify some things in your relationship that the other person doesn’t enjoy. So, give yourselves permission to pursue your passions independently just as long as you are honoring habit 4 as well.

Habit 6 - Learn to Give. When you first meet a woman or man, you wonder whether he or she matches your desires. It’s all about “me.” But, if you want the relationship to work, it’s got to be about “us.” And, that means learning to give. Be willing to entertain her clients even if you think they are a bore just because she needs you to. Be willing to pick up his dry cleaning even though that’s a “stereotype” that you don’t want to fall into - because he needs you to.

Habit 7 - Learn to Take - Some people are more comfortable with giving than taking. But being in a relationship means depending on the other person to complete you. So, don’t be afraid of taking out of the relationship those things which your partner is willing and able to give.

If you follow these 7 habits, you should have no difficulties in how to have a good relationship.

If you are reading this, then you already know your relationship needs help or maybe you want to make it stronger. Either way, don’t waste anymore time, check out this guide: http://www.relationships101-now.com

About the Author
If you are struggling in a relationship, or maybe you have gone through a breakup or divorce, there is hope. You CAN get your ex back, but you need the tools and knowledge to do so. For a complete, step by step, proven method, you owe it to yourself to read The Magic of Making Up! No matter how bad it may seem, you can still get your ex back!

Dating Tips: Watch Out For Those Gold Diggers by Sandy Eng

If you’re one of those singles that are involved in the dating scene, chances are you’ll have heard of the term “gold diggers.” So what exactly is a “gold digger?” Generally speaking, a gold digger is someone who is after your bank balance. This person will try to get something out of you for nothing. If you one of those that date the opposite sex, chances are you may have come across a gold digger. If you haven’t, chances are you eventually will.
A lot of these gold diggers are very good at manipulating other people. They may confessed to you that they are “in love” with you. When in reality, they are in love with your bank account. To them, this is more of a business relationship than is a love relationship. The amazing thing is, most people believe that gold diggers comprise of mostly women. There are many men who would fall into this category too. In fact, some of these men can be downright ruthless.

Key Signs to Watch For

So before you decide to date this particular person, here are some signs that you may want to keep an eye out for. One simple sign to watch for is that they will ask you did buy them things or pay for their bills when you’re out together. In some cases, a gold digger will go out of their way find out what you’re ATM receipts are, perhaps even snoop into your bank statements just see how much money you have.

Some gold diggers are masters at pulling your emotional strings. If you do not buy them what they want, they’ll make you feel very guilty or treat you very bad. Some will withhold sex. Some will threaten to end this so-called “relationship”. This kind of behavior is not just a one time thing. This type of behavior will occur on the regular basis when a gold digger does not get what they want.

With online dating sites popping up like crazy all over the Internet, getting a date has become a lot more easier. Meeting people through social networking sites has become a commonplace now. The bad news is that when you meet a lot of people, chances are you will run into a bad apple. And because sometimes love can be blind, we can’t see the trees for the forest. If this gold digger has bad character, sometimes we tend to over looked that. Fortunately, that’s where our friends and family can come in. They can be our best protection. If they see something bad about this person that you’re currently dating and they have nothing but bad things is say about this person, perhaps you should take their advice.

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5 Ways to Help Build Trust in Your Relationship by Sandra Asher

Now there are many ways that you can build trust in a relationship, but I’m going to give you five good ones. You’re probably thinking that I’m going to say honesty. Yeah, but honesty is to broad a statement. Let’s go a little deeper.
Don’t be afraid to speak your mind. If something is bothering you, say it. If your partner wants to go to the movies and you don’t, don’t be afraid to say so. Going along with everything without speaking your mind will only make your partner guess whether you’re telling the truth. And you should encourage your lover to do the same.

Don’t hide your feelings. If your lover asks you how you’re doing, and you say that you’re fine when you really are not, your lover will know. If you don’t feel like talking about right at that moment, just tell your partner that you don’t feel like talking right now and that you will when you’re ready. Doing this will reassure your partner that you’re not trying to hide anything, therefore building trust.

Be reliable. If you say you’re going to do something, do it. Knowing that your partner can count on you will work in two ways. The trust that your partner has for you will become stronger. Also, the more they trust you, the more you can believe in them.

Secrets are relationship killers. Secrets only do one thing and that is cause trouble. Not all secrets are bad. For example, keeping a secret about what you got your partner for their birthday is OK. I’m sure you know about the bad secrets. Secrets are too hard to keep and eventually always come out.

These are just a few things that you should keep in mind when trying to build trust in your relationship. Building trust is not easy and can be a little painful. But it will all work out in the long run. Leaving you with a good foundation for your relationship. MadnessExposure.biz points to something that you might find useful.

About the Author
I’m a mother of two from New York. I have a wonderful man in my life. We went through a nasty split up after 5 years together, however I am blessed to say that we have pulled it together and are going stronger than ever. Through it all I have learned a lot about him and myself.